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Develop Your Self Respect - A Basic Help Guide to Self Advancement
How does one remain settled, composed and also preserve self respect in a difficult setting? This short article provides tips and advice you might take into consideration to provide a basic guide to self advancement.
Picture your own self as a Dart Board. Anything as well as anyone else surrounding you can become darts, at some point. These darts can damage your self esteem as well as draw you down in ways you might not even notice if you are not careful. Never allow them to damage you by ‘getting one over you’. Here is a list of darts to watch out for, and to dodge:
Type 1 : Adverse Work place
Watch out for “dog eat dog” where most people are battling simply to get ahead. Here non-appreciative folk generally survive. Nobody will value your efforts even though you may skip lunch break as well as dinner, in addition to staying up late. More often than not you are left to work without help from people concerned. Avoid this type of work environment, it's going to wreck your self respect. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competitive environment where you win, and thrive.
Type 2: The Behaviour of others
Brown nosers, gossips, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, the walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers,… all these kinds of people can have an adverse affect on your self esteem. Avoid them as much as possible. Equally importantly, ignore their comments - do not take them to heart.
Type 3: A Rapidly Changing Environment
Changes challenge our pre-set ideas, testing our flexibility, adaptability and require that we alter the way we think. Changes tend to make life difficult for awhile, and may cause stress but more positively this type of dart helps us find ways to improve our selves. Change is one dart you have to accept, and learn to recognise as a postive influence.
Type 4: Past Experience Clouding Future Judgement
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Type 5: Negative World View
Focus on the job in hand. Avoid wrapping yourself up with all the negativities of the world since they can swamp the strongest individual. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Type 6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing, and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, your workplace, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. Learn from the experiences of others. That way you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may wonder if certain people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and taking action for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. Do not wait any longer for someone to come and tell you – “You now have permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”
In life, it is hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you may seem to be pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armor to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. During battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within.
Building self esteem leads to self improvement as we begin to become responsible for who we are and what we do. Self esteem is like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self respect, we take control of our lives and values. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starting point on the road to self improvement.
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